A doula is not something you do, but something you are. It is an intrinsic essence inside you that you have to use, even if you don't realise that what you are doing is called doulaing. A doula does not have to be trained; indeed, training implies that you can be 'done' training. However, part of being a doula is a constant striving to learn more, experience more, meet new people with new needs, and training is usually a part of that.  A doula's key skills are active listening, holding space, responding to client's needs, signposting and being non-judgemental.

I believe that people are intelligent and autonomous and capable of making good choices about their care based on their specific circumstances and their understanding of the options available to them, and I support everyone who makes the right decision for them, regardless of what that decision is. No judgement.

I believe that everyone who is facing a time of uncertainty and transition deserves a doula. I do not believe that that doula must be me, but that there is a perfect doula out there to suit everyone.

The Starfish Story

"An old man was walking on the beach one morning after a storm. In the distance, he could see someone moving like a dancer. As he came closer, he saw that it was a young woman picking up starfish and gently throwing them into the ocean.

A starfish on sand, with a heart drawn into the sand next to it.

'Young lady, why are you throwing starfish into the ocean?'

'The sun is up, and the tide is going out, and if I do not throw them in they will die,' she said.

'But young lady, do you not realise that there are many miles of beach and thousands of starfish? You cannot possibly make a difference.' The young woman listened politely, the bent down, picked up another starfish and threw it into the sea.

'It made a difference to that one.'"

If you choose me as your doula, I will be honoured to work with you. I will put your needs above my own and support you in various practical, emotional and informational ways. I will work with you (and your partner/family if you have one) to find ways for you to be able to acheive your own goals.

In this way, I hope I can make a difference, giving you the strength to go forwards in life, joyfully.